Trauma – in couples, individuals and practitioners

“A program, organization, or system that is trauma-informed realizes the widespread impact of trauma and understands potential paths for healing; recognizes the signs and symptoms of trauma in staff, clients, and others involved with the system; and responds by fully integrating knowledge about trauma into policies, procedures, practices, and settings.” (SAMHSA, 2012, p. 4) We … [Read more…]

Our faces and therapy

There has been much in the news lately about Ramsay Hunt syndrome, which I was bestruck by some twenty-five years ago. At the time I was facilitating a group and one member said to me ‘Judi, I think you have had a stroke’ – there was no pain at the time and at that point … [Read more…]

Letting Go Of The Agenda

New clients presenting for therapy often expect the therapist to fix their problems, and in an attempt to justify our sessional rates, therapists like myself can be seduced to expertly search for what is missing or broken in a couple’s relationship. So not only do the partners or individuals have their agendas, but we also … [Read more…]

What means ‘Everybody’?

Today sees my third decade of involvement with COSRT, our chosen accrediting body – one of several – and I find myself reminiscing about the changes within the profession. “BASMT”, the British Association for Sex and Marital Therapy, has always been one of very few, if not the only specialist body for sex and relationships – as … [Read more…]

Differentiation Only For Clients???

I am reminded that, some time ago, my friend David Schnarch,  (“The Sexual Crucible”, “Passionate Marriage” et al.), together with his partner Ruth Morehouse, came to Britain following an invite from the London Diploma and the Naos-Institute (  He stayed with us for a three-day Masterclass in London which attracted students from all over Europe, representatives of many … [Read more…]

Customer Care??

In the last few days, I have had a challenging exchange with the John Lewis Partnership. My personal experience was one of their intransigence, lack of movement, holding the power and it reminded me of our couples work when two people cannot arrive at an amicable and mutually positive way forward. Despite my offering of … [Read more…]