Blog from a journey about a journey.

Dear past present and future LDPRT students, and any other chance readers. I find myself sitting waiting on a runway, about to embark on another adventure, and minded to reflect on other trips. The journey to becoming a faculty member on the Diploma course has been a long and winding road. And well rewarded by … [Read more…]

Same Sex, Same Issues?

Things have never seemed better for same-sex couples*: marriage and civil partnerships, more same-sex couples becoming parents, increased representation in the media. These couples seem to be moving into the mainstream and assimilation continues apace… resistance is futile! As couple therapists we see this in the consulting room with same-sex couples bringing the same issues … [Read more…]

Disappointment

As defined by Loomes and Sugden (1986) disappointment is ” a psychological reaction to an outcome that does not match up against prior expectations” (Theory of Disappointment, Naplas and Chauveau, (2007) What characterises much of our couples and psychosexual work? Underneath all the anger, resentment, fear and bewilderment are usually disappointments with dreams, hopes, or … [Read more…]

Ethics and Practice

The suggestion that I contribute to the LDPRT blog reminded me that it was time I re-read the COSRT Codes of Ethics and Practice – one for General and Accredited members and one for Supervisors, the latter in my anecdotal experience being generally less familiar to COSRT members. I try to do this regularly as … [Read more…]

Then & Now

Way back in the dark ages of the 1960s when no respectable therapist would be seen dead without crushed velvet Loons and Cuban heeled boots, or indeed a floral hippy dress! There came out of the primordial sludge two giants of their age. A couple who transformed outdated ideas about human sexuality. Ladies and gentlemen, … [Read more…]

Couple Work, Self-Work And True Love

It’s my first couple session with Robert and Tom. Robert glares at me angrily and I watch Tom who fixes a fearful gaze on Robert. Tom is not breathing and the tension is tangible. Robert wants Tom to change and after years of trying – the last four of their eighteen years together to be … [Read more…]

Couples Therapy and Domestic Violence

During a couples therapy session and unexpectedly, Sue gets up and hits her partner Rob in the face. How should we, as couples therapists respond? Many couples therapists state categorically “I don’t work with domestic violence”. The usual justification given is that if there were some degree of intimidation in the therapy room or spouses … [Read more…]